Wednesday 25 February 2009

I'm an awesome writer. My friends all tell me so.

OK, so why the strangled verse in the previous posts? It’s a comment on the way the internet is working as a means of promoting a writer’s work.

Bias and bad judgement are all too common on online forums and blogs where pieces are put up for anyone to crit. Often when we put work up for critting, especially as beginners, we don’t mean, “Please tell me where I’m going wrong, and how good or bad this is,” we mean, “Please admire my work and tell me that I’m good.” The person doing the crit may be swayed by the need to be nice to the author because if he is not, that author might trash the critter's work when he puts his piece up.

The author will put up a piece to be admired, and when it is, will lap up that admiration, and see it as vindication of the way they write. Never mind that some of these admirers wouldn’t know good writing if it kissed their ass; they’ve said nice things so they are the author’s bestest, bestest fwiend.

What is the motivation behind these honeyed words? Is it to make the writer feel good? Maybe, especially if they want their own work praised in return. Is it to advertise their own blog so that they too can have people visit and likewise massage their writer’s ego in some sort of mutual admiration network? Or maybe it's a genuine, but misguided piece of critting by another beginner... how would you know an experienced critter from a rookie? Or if they are published, is it a means of getting word round about their books? It’s a means, for sure, but I’m not so sure it’s a good means. It’s too akin to spamming. And would you buy a book written by someone who lavishes words like “awesome” where really a stunned, embarrassed silence is more appropriate? Not me, for sure.

Does this mutual admiration network really matter though? Surely the world is so full of wannabe writers who will never make it, that some undue praise is a good thing and will make them happy? Well, I guess it doesn't matter, unless that person is so besotted with their own hyped-up self-worth that they are considering self-publishing, or giving up the day job. The internet is full of virtual wannabe writers like Palm Springs is full of wannabe actors.

The problem with undue praise is it means the writer becomes more hostile to constructive criticism. They may even see it as a personal attack or motivated by professional jealousy; anything, so long as they don’t have to blame their work. We are a touchy enough bunch as it is, writers, and find it hard to accept criticism gracefully. Mostly we sulk for a while before looking at the crit constructively and learning from it. But if we have had our head turned by slavish praise, be it from Mom or from luvvies on the internet, then we would much rather listen to them. It’s natural. But it’s not going to help us improve.

Does this mean we should tell each other in stark terms that our writing sucks? Hell, no. We need to point out the good and suggest ways of improving the bad if we are asked to crit something. But that won’t help the writer whose head has been turned by awesome praise. They won’t listen. Because they know they are a good writer. Mommy said so.

5 comments:

Karen said...

Very good post. I learnt long ago not to trust the judgement of family and friends, and in fact don't even show them my writing now - unless it's published!

I have an email writing 'buddy' I trust, for motivation and deadlines (we post each other a chapter every week) but that's it.

DOT said...

Excellent post. The best praise I can hope ever to receive is when someone laughs out loud at an appropriate point in something that I have written. Unmediated reaction speaks volumes, so if I see a frown forming I know something isn't working.

Generally, I shy away from praise. Constructive criticism from someone whose opinion I respect helps me become a better writer.

Moccasin said...

Thanks. Writing is like parenthood. Everyone warns us to not listen to family and friends, to accept criticism gracefully, that rejections are not personal, that writing doesn't pay, and so on, just as we were warned about what it's like to have kids, yet I bet most of us make the mistakes despite the warnings. Which is just as well really, or no kids would be born, and nothing would ever be written.

M

Laurie Paulsen said...

i read through this entry with my fist in the air, yawping, "YES!" as i went along. thank you for an articulate and true response to blind tit-for-tat feedback we receive too often for our writing. i'm not saying i don't like praise, but i'm too realistic about my limitations to believe those "awesome" comments every time.
on the other hand, if i'm taking these comments as an indication of how the average consumer might feel about my writing, that might be a good sign, eh? i do like to fantasize. :)
thanks for speaking the truth, moccasin. i'll be back.

Barry Walsh said...

Thanks. You pin the subject down so well.

The support and encouragement of family and friends is, as you say, “… natural. But it’s not going to help us improve.” Absolutely. And Karen’s sage advice, “… not to trust the judgement of family and friends,” is only completely right!

However, there is a time – a short time – when we’re starting out and suffering sapping doubts, when this encouragement can get us going. I infer this from your comment,” just as well really, or…… nothing would ever be written”)The key is not to ‘inhale’ while accepting the support that says ‘go for it’ or ‘it’s great’ because those saying it know it’s important to you.

Family and friends can’t give the objective views we must have to become better writers. But when our writing gets, as it must, (painfully) grounded by professionals, they will still be supporting us. This, too, can help us become better writers. I bang on a bit about this at http://pimlicokid.blogspot.com/